For the last few years I’ve held a personal planning retreat as my husband and I have had a pretty big goal we wanted to reach. This summer we achieved that goal, which was purchasing our forever home. It was a goal we worked tirelessly for over three years, and it felt amazing to achieve it in July.
So this year my planning retreat was especially epic as I needed to set a new big goal.
Since we moved in I’ve had a serious vision of how I want the property and land, we have, work for us. To help earn money and boost our local economy. And so my big three year goal is to build a workshop where I can run day retreats such as yoga, painting, tai chi, furniture restoration and mindfulness. I also want to have part of our land dedicated to glamping and we are investigating yurts to offer a back to nature experience.
But this vision has had me distracted from the business I’ve been trying to build over the last few months, which is a productivity coaching business. I want to be completely open and honest with you in that I’ve really struggled over the last month in seeing how this coaching business fits in with my bigger plans. But I guess it’s more than that, because I’ve realised that productivity was something I fell into. After learning all about productivity to help me out of a mess I since went on to do it as my day job.
But after doing some serious soul searching and intense meditation it’s become very apparent to me that although I’m good at it, productivity isn’t my passion, it’s not what gets me leaping out of bed in the morning.
And that’s pretty important right? To find something that makes you smile and happy. To have a job that doesn’t feel like work?
So I spent some time really thinking about what I love to do. And this made me go back to what I dreamt of doing as a child, which apart from being a princess, was to be a criminologist. I apologise if anyone finds this weird, but from about the age of 11 I was intrigued by what made people do what they did. In particular, it was what made people who committed serious crimes do what they do. However, for a number of reasons, which I’ll talk about another day, I never made it down that path.
After studying for a degree in tourism and business management I got a job that all my friends envied as I ran events all over the world and got to travel to some amazing places. Peru, South Africa, Canada, all over America and Europe. Although I loved every second I never felt it was my true calling, I had to work hard to get it right, I wasn’t a natural. By the time I hit my mid-twenties I was spending a lot of my spare time researching psychology courses. At the same time, I met my now husband, and his military career took us in a different direction. I don’t regret anything as my life with him has been and continues to be amazing.
But, after the birth of our second child three years ago, I realised that I wanted to spend more time at home, but we couldn’t afford for me to be a stay at home mum. And to be honest I’m not sure I wanted to either. I’ve always enjoyed the challenge of working and the independence it gives me.
So I started dreaming of going back to school and studying counselling. But this was at the same time as we started really wanting to push forward with our dream of a house in the countryside and acres of land. After numerous discussions with my husband I agreed that I would carry on working to enable us to fund that dream.
What has this all told me?
Going back over my career aspirations has confirmed that coaching is definitely the right path for me to be on. I’m a natural cheerleader, empowerer, problem solver. But I’m also passionate about helping women get to the bottom of what’s preventing them from achieving true happiness and success and how they can develop their real self to change this.
This is mostly to do with that little voice inside our head that fills us with worry, anxiety, negativity, that makes us judge ourselves and question our choices and decisions, you know those nagging thoughts of self-doubt. Feelings of not being good enough, lacking self-worth. But that little voice is not our reality. And if we give it too much attention it can be destructive.
It’s a voice that’s grown louder and louder over the years thanks to earlier experiences. However, in listening to our little voice, we are not assessing a current situation and we then miss out on opportunities.
The more we develop our real self, the more we become aware of our feelings and emotions right in the moment, the less influence that little voice will have on us and we can open our hearts and minds to opportunity, true happiness and success. And finally we can become the successful, confident, truly happy entrepreneur we know we should be.
I am really excited about my new venture, my new challenge. I will be sharing more about how I have overcome the little voice inside my head over the coming weeks and telling you how and why I now feel good enough, how I know I am worthy and deserving of the true happiness and success I feel every day.